It's my UKAPS birthday, I joined one year ago today
🙂 So I thought I'd write a post about why I started fishkeeping. It's a bit long, apologies for that!
When I was very young my dad kept a tropical fishtank and some firebellied toads (2 different tanks luckily!) which I was enamoured by, I loved to go to Maidenhead Aquatics at Morden Hall with him and pick out fish, to help with waterchanges and generally be around animals. The tank began to leak when I was 5, so he drained the tank and we kept some leopard geckos, which was very successful - they bred, and we swapped the babies at the local pet shop for some golden axolotls. This spiraled into keeping a huge array of exotic pets over the next 6 years - corn snakes, salamanders, bullfrogs and horned toads, then onto insects with hissing cockroaches, praying mantis, beetles and their large grubs in big tubs, and finally arachnids where we ended up with 21 tarantulas and 14 scorpions. We probably had a hundred different species come and go with varying success - some things bred and lived a long time, and some things dropped dead very quickly. We had enormous fun going to conventions across England to meet the eccentric people who sold the animals, and find fascinating creatures to keep. The most awful creature we kept was a camel spider, which is probably one of the most ugly things in the world. My dad goes through phases of collecting interesting things (it's usually plants, he is Kew-trained horticulturist, gardener and landscape architect), and he was getting bored by the time I was 12 so they all got given to the local pet shop (Crystal Palace has a fantastic exotic pets shop which enabled all of this), and I got some pet fancy rats instead. We've just had cats since I was 15. Because I kept so many animals as a teenager I of course wanted to study biology and do some sort of science-y stuff as an adult, but I started finding the tests extremely hard at A-Level as I'm dyslexic (sorry for all my typos all the time 😅), and really was much better at art anyway, so I studied that. Nature has always featured heavily in my art, but always as an interpretation.
In 2019 I started watching Foo the Flowerhorn videos on youtube to chill out after work which was really high stress. When the pandemic began it completely up-ended my industry (designer fashion) and my small business, though I was totally burnt out anyway from the extremely long hours and relentless desire people have for new stuff, so in a way it was a relief to rest. I started playing Planet Zoo where you make and manage a zoo with quite realistic animals, I loved to make beautiful naturalistic enclosures, it was a great escape. Then I started to fantasise about my own aquarium, what I might put in it and how that might go, but I didn't think I'd get to keep one any time soon. Looking back I think it was the idea of another little world in my bedroom, one I could somewhat control was what really attracted me to it, while the whole world became so scary and unknowable. In May 2020 my MIL died very unexpectedly (not from covid, but covid made it even more awful) and I just snapped, I have always been quite anxious and I was at a 10/10, somehow I felt that the only relief I would have is if I got a fishtank. Luckily a lovely woman at our allotment had a tank and basic equipment in her shed from trying and failing to keep goldfish which she gave to me for free. I think my instincts were right, I have found this hobby healing, calming and invigorating.
<This was my first post on UKAPS>, in which I killed my first group of fish by completely misunderstanding cycling and how important water changes are, and relied on test kits to tell me things they couldn't. I had researched for months (a bit but not much on UKAPS) and completely got the wrong end of the stick, don't trust aquarium-reddit, folks! I felt very guilty, lots of animals had died on us when I was a kid and even though I was very young I had always felt guilty and responsible for that, and I really did not want to repeat those mistakes, my biggest goal is for all my pets to live the best life possible. Somehow I must've realised that this place was the best place to ask what was going on, which I'm very thankful for. The concepts explained to me in that first post are really the foundation of my knowledge and understanding of the aquarium, and I haven't killed a fish in a new tank since. Especially big thanks to
@dw1305, the first time I felt I really "got" what was going on in an aquarium and the whole holistic system was with your explanations. Though of course it takes a village and there are too many amazing users to name, I won't list as I'm sure I'll leave someone awesome out.
I've watched basically every aquascaping video on Youtube over the past year which are so mesmerising, but really it is UKAPS where I have learnt the most, not just from all the amazing responses to my own posts that have really educated me, but from the whole archive of questions and answers with so many theories and experiments being shared, and the endless beautiful journals full of creativity. I don't always comment, but I read almost everything and learn something new constantly. Coming from the fashion industry, which has a very hostile and competitive atmosphere which is very isolating (even though most fashion designers are very nice), it has been so refreshing to join a community of people who share so openly, who compliment and comment and give advice and just generally lift eachother up. It's kinda like art school, but better. After being burnt out by fashion, I haven't made anything new art-wise the whole pandemic, although now I look back and view the aquariums as pieces of art themselves, art where we work collaboratively with nature to create something beautiful that neither of us could have done alone. Before coming here I only really thought about fish tanks in old-fashioned terms, as glass boxes you bought in a pre-decided size, where you put a small selection of plants and fish and it was basic, but still nice. Of course, now I know that you can literally do every part of the aquarium yourself, that there is so much variety, so much possibility and so much beauty. I am so excited by the possibilities of this hobby - I have so many ideas I want to try, I honestly can't wait! Another little shoutout here to my awesome creative friend
@Courtneybst, who I'm endlessly scheming new tank ideas with, we met on UKAPS after I gave him some baby apistogrammas.
Despite being trapped in my room the whole time, this hobby and community has really has made this past year fun - I'm so grateful for all of your generosity, advice, jokes, plants and experiences shared so far. Here's to many more years of glorious fishkeeping, aquascaping and everything inbetween! 🐟🦐🎉