From taking this all in, I will either a) add another 6 Green neons to make the shoal bigger and see if this helps or b) try a dither fish.
Personally I wouldn't consider it an 'either' consideration - I'd add the six Neons regardless, and then consider options for dither fish if you want to go that route.
I do like the look of the small Pygmy corydoras, always busy at the bottom and won’t look too big for my scape.
Fish vary, but they're another 'hider' for me, so wouldn't be on my list for the intended outcome.
I worry about my bio load getting larger with more fish?
I wouldn't worry too much, with 12 x Neons and 11 x Embers, you're still only at 66% stocking based on AqAdvisors calculator, plus a heavily planted tank with lots of broken lines of sight can support more fish that they suggest at 100% in my view as long as the fish size is appropriate to the tank.